I've been in a relationship with this man for over 7 years and we have 2 kids together. I'm not perfect in any way and have many flows but I always try to improve. Recently he told me he's tired of being in a relationship with me because, well I'm not perfect. I don't cook and clean enough and I'm also apparently not a good mother. He said his mother is. In all of that he has insulted me and emotionally abused me by intentionally doing things that he knows will hurt me. When I talk I have a problem and when I keep quiet I have a problem too. Thing is I've done everything in my power to make this work. He says he wants it to work. But when I ask him to work on his flaws too, he suddenly acts like a Saint, with no flaws at all. I am so stressed that I've developed high blood pressure. I've been a stay at home mother for 7 years and I'm completely lost as to how I'm to move on, especially emotionally from this. Every time I think of him leaving I literally run out of breath and my pressure shoots up. He nolonger wants to even be in the same room as me. What do I do? I have nothing to my name.

I married Silman when I was 23 years old. He worked in Dubai hence the marriage was long distance. It was characterized by arguments, indifference as whenever he came back home for vacations he totally ignored me. He relocated back after 5 years and in the second year after he had relocated to Uganda. He started an affair with a woman who insulted me daily since the affair started. He always gaslighted me into thinking that it was the woman forcing the relationship. The woman sent me a video of the two of them in bed and this is how I confirmed the affair. He has since apologized and alleged that he cut off communication with her. We have 3 children together, however I don't know how to move forward with him, I don't trust him and I feel irritated by alot of what he does. I can't stop thinking about the affair too. Kindly help