my girl friend feels like she's not enough she's overwhelmed with literally everything she getting so depressed that she's pushing me away she's get distant with everybody and she talks so much about suicide i don't know what to do for her anymore she just 21 imagineš¢
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I'm really sorry that you and your girlfriend are going through this. It sounds like an incredibly difficult and painful situation, and I appreciate you reaching out for help. You're not alone in this, and neither is she.
It's understandable that you feel overwhelmed and unsure of what to do. When someone you love is struggling with depression and feelings of not being enough, it can be heartbreaking and exhausting. You clearly care about her deeply, and your concern shows how much you want to support her. Right now, it’s important to remind yourself that depression is not her fault, nor is it yours.
Feeling like she's not enough and being overwhelmed are very real and painful emotions. It’s common for people struggling with depression to withdraw and push others away, not because they don’t care, but because they feel like a burden. She may not see her own worth right now, but that doesn't mean she is unworthy. Her pain is valid, but it doesn’t define who she is.
Even though she may not see it, she has strengths. She has survived every hard day that has led up to this moment, and that alone speaks to her resilience. Depression can make it hard for her to recognize her progress, but small steps still count. If she has sought help or even spoken to you about her feelings, that is already a step forward. Encourage her to hold on to the reasons she may have had for wanting to keep going.
Supporting someone with depression can feel like walking through fog—you might not always know the right thing to say or do, but just being there matters. Encourage her to seek professional help if she hasn’t already, and if she’s talking about suicide frequently, this is serious and requires immediate attention. You don’t have to carry this alone. Reach out to someone she trusts, a therapist, a hotline, or a crisis center. She deserves support, and so do you.
Remind her gently that she is not alone in this. Healing takes time, and even though she might not feel capable right now, she is worthy of getting better. And so are you. Keep showing up for her, but also take care of yourself. You matter too.
If you are currently feeling suicidal or are in crisis, call 911 or proceed to your local emergency room.