How do I go about separation

I am so sorry you are going through this. You never deserved to be betrayed or made to feel invisible in your marriage. Thinking about separation after betrayal and feeling unseen can be very painful. You do not have to decide everything at once.

It may help to ask yourself:

• What would need to change for me to feel loved, respected, and safe?
• Is my partner willing to take responsibility and work on the relationship?
• Am I staying because I want to, or because I feel scared, guilty, or pressured?

Try to give yourself time to think about what you need. If it feels safe, talking openly with your partner or seeing a couples counsellor may help. Individual counselling can also give you space to understand what you want without pressure.

If there is fear, control, or abuse in the relationship, please put your safety first.

You deserve time and support as you make this decision. If you would like help sorting through your feelings and options, you’re welcome to reach out for counselling.